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8 Signs You Are Robbing Yourself of Happiness and How to Stop

by Nongirly
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Sometimes it’s hard to know how to feel happy. The monotony of everyday life has taken its toll. You’re tired, restless, and feel like you can’t catch a break. You feel hopeless and believe that nothing is ever going to change. 

The problem, in most cases, is you. You are your own worst enemy.  

Below are 8 signs you are robbing yourself of happiness and suggestions on how to stop. 

1. Self-Doubt

Self-doubt rears its ugly head when you believe you can’t trust the decisions you make. You may have made mistakes, and instead of learning the lessons and doing better next time, you chose to take it to heart. You likely beat yourself up with negative thoughts about how awful you were to make such a mistake. 

How to fix it:

Think about the mistakes you have made, and this time look at them as a lesson learned. When you have future decisions to make, plan them out, do your research, and make your decision. Don’t allow yourself to focus on all the things that could go wrong. 

2. You Ignore Your Health

When you don’t take care of yourself, every other aspect of your life is affected. You are tired and unable to think clearly. The energy you need to face your day is non-existent, leaving you unmotivated. These things can also lead to more serious health issues in the long term.

How to fix it:

Make an appointment with your doctor. This is a great start to see what you need to work on medically. Take the time to make more nutritious meals. When our body is properly fueled, it gives us the energy we need to get through the day. Adding exercise to your day, even if it’s just a short walk, can also help increase your energy levels—with the added benefit of elevating your mood.

3. You Can’t Let Things Go

Someone hurt you and you are never going to forget it so they can’t hurt you again. This kind of thinking is more hurtful to yourself than anyone else. All the pain is internalized, leading to depression, stress, and/or health issues. 

How to fix it:

Remember, there are things in this world we are unable to change. Hurts happen. You don’t have to let those people back into your life. But, for your sake, you do need to find a way to forgive them. You may not be able to do this on your own, depending on the wounding. It is hard to know how to feel happy when we are hurting. Consider finding a therapist to talk to and start healing.

4. Fear Is in Control

Fear can stop you from living your life. If you are afraid to try new things, you’ll never grow. This applies to other areas in your life; when you let fear control you, it stops you from moving forward.

How to fix it:

The only way out of fear is to step through it. Take a deep breath and sign up for that class you’ve been wanting to take, register for the creative writing workshop, or whatever it is you have always wanted to do. Do it. You will be surprised how quickly the fear leaves as you move forward.

5. People-Pleasing

It is common for people-pleasing people to ask themselves “how can I feel happy?” People-pleasing is based on fear. You are afraid of what someone else thinks about the choices you make. This leaves you questioning everything you do, from what you wear to decisions you make for yourself and your family.

How to fix it:

It will take a lot of practice, but you have to learn to care less about what others think. You aren’t going to be able to please everyone, and you’ll be left feeling empty and unsatisfied if you try. 

6. Procrastination

Procrastination is a form of self-sabotage. When you continue to put things off, they eventually pile up. You will be left feeling overwhelmed, rushed, and stressed. 

How to fix it:

Stop putting this off to do later. Make a list of all the things you need to get done, then break them down into manageable chunks. Be sure to check them off when you are done to get that burst of dopamine at a job well done. 

7. You Compare Yourself to Others

With access to social media everywhere, it is hard to not compare yourself with everyone else. However, our self-esteem takes a hit when we end up in this cycle.  

How to fix it:

Recognize that the people you are comparing yourself to are only showing good things on social media. Turn the focus back to your own life. Starting a gratitude journal can help you focus on the great things you have in your life. 

8. Worry

Worry is a thief. It steals time from the happy moment because you are too busy worrying about things that haven’t happened yet. In short, if you are wondering how to feel happy, one of the first things you can try to quit worrying about things that are not even a problem.

How to fix it:

Make a choice to live for today. It doesn’t hurt to have a plan, so you are prepared. But you can’t spend all of your time worrying about tomorrow. 

Happiness can be different things for different people. What is happiness to you? Take some time to think about this question. Write your answer down somewhere. Then, make a plan to change the way you are living your daily life to make it happen.   

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